Children don't usually make plans to have conversations with us. We have to be physically available to them in order to stimulate conversations with children. If we're with them, we're bound to hear what's on their minds. But if they constantly have to seek us out or wait for our schedules to open up, or if they have to contend with frequent lack of interest or diverted attention, they may stop talking.
So how can we stay connected by talking with our children and having conversations?
Tips for Communicating with Your Children
Be available to talk. Children are very immediate, especially when it comes to their feelings, emotions, and worries. When your child wants to talk, do your very best to make yourself available. Being available becomes increasingly important as your children grow older, so make sure to start creating a space for children to talk as they become teenagers as well.
Be fully present during conversations. In a multitasking world, undivided attention is a precious commodity. Children need parents who listen with their eyes and ears. Turn off the smart phone, computer, tablet, television, or other distractions that dilute the conversation.
Listen to your children in conversations. Often our conversations are one-sided. There are so many things we need to tell and teach our children that we often fall into a pattern of directive monologues. Try just listening instead of just talking to your kids.
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